Bida-bida: A Search for Recognition

Amid a crowd, there's always one,

A person who seeks the spotlight, never done.

They'll do whatever it takes, to be seen,

To be the center of attention, always keen.

The bida-bida, always in the lead,

Eager to be in the limelight, never in need.

They'll tell a joke, or sing a song,

Even if it's not their turn, they'll never be wrong.

They'll interrupt, and take the stage,

Making sure, they're not in the background, but on the front page.

They'll act, and speak, without a care,

Being noticed, is their main affair.

But as the bida-bida takes the stage,

Their true colors are hard to gauge.

Behind the facade, there's a different story,

Of someone who's seeking love and glory.

Perhaps, they've been hurt, or feel alone,

And attention is a way to atone.

Or maybe, they just want to be heard,

And to be seen is their only word.

o let us not judge, the bida-bida person,

For their actions may come from a deeper reason,

A longing for acceptance, a need to belong,

A search for validation, in which they're drawn.

Let us understand, and lend a listening ear,

For who knows, they might just need a friend to hold dear.

Behind the mask, there's a human being,

With emotions and struggles, that are not easy to be seen.

They may have a story, of pain and sorrow,

And the attention they seek is a way to borrow,

A moment of happiness, a feeling of worth,

And at that moment, they find solace on earth.

So let's be kind, and show compassion,

For the bida-bida person, in action.

In this world, where everyone is seeking,

A little empathy is what they're needing.

The Harm of Judgement: Why We Shouldn't Assume Without Understanding

It is easy to pass judgment on a situation or person that we have never experienced or been in. However, it is important to remember that unless we have walked in someone else's shoes and utterly understand their circumstances, we are not able to make assumptions or pass judgment.

Many of us have heard the phrase "Don't judge a book by its cover," but it is a principle that is often overlooked in everyday life. We see someone who is homeless and at once assume they must be lazy or have made poor choices. We see a person in a wheelchair and assume they must be helpless or unable to do certain things. We see a person of a different race or religion and make assumptions about their character or beliefs. But these assumptions are often based on stereotypes and a lack of understanding, and they can be harmful and unfair.

When we judge someone without understanding their situation, we are not only being unfair to them, but we are also limiting ourselves. We are missing the opportunity to gain experience and grow as individuals. Every person has a unique story, and by taking the time to understand and appreciate that story, we can become more empathetic and compassionate individuals.

It is also important to remember that many people are dealing with unseen challenges and struggles. A person who is homeless may have suffered from a mental illness or lost their job due to the economy. A person in a wheelchair may have a chronic illness or have been in a life-altering accident. A person of a different race or religion may be dealing with discrimination or prejudice. These struggles are invisible to the outside world, but they are very real to the person experiencing them. By not judging them and instead showing understanding and compassion, we can help ease their burden and make the world a better place for everyone.

It is easy to pass judgment on a situation or person that we have never experienced or been in. However, it is important to remember that unless we have walked in someone else's shoes and utterly understand their circumstances, we are not in a position to make assumptions or pass judgment. By not judging others, we can become more empathetic and compassionate individuals, and make the world a better place for everyone.

The Strength of Lifting Others Up

Strong people are often admired for their physical or mental strength, their courage and determination, and their ability to overcome challenges. But true strength is not just about being able to lift heavy weights or achieve great accomplishments. It is also about the way we treat others and the way we conduct ourselves in the world.

One of the hallmarks of a strong person is their ability to lift others, rather than tearing them down. This means being supportive and encouraging, rather than critical and judgmental. It means offering a helping hand or a kind word when someone is struggling, rather than taking pleasure in their misfortunes.

This type of behavior is not only kind and compassionate, but it also has a ripple effect on those around us. When we lift others, we help them to feel valued and appreciated, which in turn boosts their self-esteem and confidence. This can lead to a positive spiral of support and encouragement, as those who have been lifted feel more empowered to lift others in turn.

On the other hand, when we put others down, we not only hurt their feelings but also damage the relationships we have with them. No one wants to be around someone who is constantly critical or judgmental, and this type of behavior can lead to resentment and distance in our relationships.

Furthermore, when we put others down, we are often motivated by a desire to feel superior or to bolster our ego. This type of behavior is rooted in a lack of self-confidence and a need to compensate for our insecurities. It is a sign of weakness, rather than strength.

So, how can we be strong and lift others? One of the most powerful things we can do is to simply be there for others when they need us. This could mean offering a listening ear when someone is going through a tough time or offering practical support when someone is struggling with a task. It could also mean offering words of encouragement or praise when someone is working hard to achieve a goal.

Another way to lift others is to be a role model for positive behavior. This means leading by example and showing others that it is possible to be kind and compassionate, even when we are facing challenges ourselves. When we set a good example, we inspire others to do the same, and we create a culture of positivity and support.

We can lift others by being present in our interactions with them. This means truly listening to what they have to say and showing genuine interest in their lives and experiences. It also means being authentic and genuine in our communication and being open and honest about our struggles and challenges.

True strength is not just about being able to lift heavy weights or achieve great feats. It is also about the way we treat others and the way we conduct ourselves in the world. Strong people are those who lift others, rather than tear them down. They are supportive and encouraging, rather than critical and judgmental. They offer a helping hand or a kind word when someone is struggling, and they set a good example for positive behavior. When we lift others, we help them to feel valued and appreciated, and we create a culture of positivity and support.

The Importance of Respect for Every Individual, Not Based on Occupation or Profession

It is not appropriate for people to base their level of respect for someone on their occupation or profession. Everyone should be treated with respect and dignity, regardless of their job or profession. It is important to recognize and value the inherent worth and humanity of every person.

It is also important to remember that people's needs and interests in their work and livelihood vary from person to person. For some, their job or profession is simply a way to provide for their basic needs, while for others it is a way to contribute to their community and society. In general, people should not allow their job or profession to dictate how they are treated or how they treat others. Instead, they should focus on their own needs and interests in life and find ways to meet these needs in a way that does not require abuse or exploitation of others.

When people ask about your occupation, it should not be an opportunity for you to show off your status or achievements to them. Instead, it should be an opportunity for you to show your honesty and respect for them as individuals.

As human beings, we all deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, no matter who we are or what we do for a living. Unfortunately, our society often places value on certain occupations or professions, leading to a hierarchy of respect that is not always fair or just. 

This hierarchy can have a negative impact on individuals who are not seen as valuable or worthy because of their profession, leading to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and even discrimination. But the reality is that every person has worth and value, regardless of their occupation or profession. Every person has unique talents, skills, and abilities that make them valuable members of society. Every person has dreams, aspirations, and desires that deserve to be recognised and respected. Every person has a right to be treated with kindness, compassion, and understanding, regardless of their profession.

It is important that we all recognize and embrace this truth. We must work to create a society where everyone is treated with respect and dignity, regardless of their occupation or profession. This means valuing and respecting the inherent worth of every individual, and treating them with kindness and compassion. It means acknowledging the contributions and value of every person, and recognizing the importance of diversity and inclusion in our communities.

By embracing this philosophy, we can create a more just and equitable society where everyone is valued and respected for who they are, not just what they do. We can foster a sense of belonging and connection among all people, and create a world where everyone is treated with the respect and dignity they deserve. So, it is very important to give respect to every individual, not based on their occupation or profession.